Boshonto Family

wud u have the same attitude to ur wife's bf that u have now abt ur gfs..
mane ekhon apni je roko vabe apnar meye bandhuder sathe mischen apnar wife er chele bandhu rao se vabei apnar wf ersathe misuk eta apnar kase kmon lagbe?
do u think the relation of bfs of a girl changed after her mariage? do u think a boy also have to change their relation after his marriage?
what shud be limit do u think?

i think very transparent abt it...relation n behaviour with frnz whose r boy ought NOT be Change @all...after marriage,,even till doomsday.
Coz i have very few of frndz,whose major portion is girl..& i hope they will behave same with me after their marriage.
N.B I have no girlfrnd right now.If would,i will not think abt her frnz whose r boy after our marriage.
That's it..

i think it depends on whether it’s an affair marriage or arranged marraige...

chele and meye ubhoyer belay, affair marriage er khetre frndz der bepare agei ekta understanding hoye jay...tai biyer por ei niye temon problem hobar chance thakena...kintu traditional style a arranged marriage er khetre bishoy ta husband, wife & husband'r family'r mentality'r upor depend kore...

prothom question er jobabe bolte chai...maarriage holo amar kache emon ekta commitment jar maddhome amar shobkichur upor special ekta manush ke ami purno odhikar deyar ongikar korchi. thik eki vabe oi manushtar uporeo ami purno odhikar pelam. amar kache akhon prithibir shobcheye important & prio manush hocche amar wife. so ami tar khetre possessive hobo etai shavhabik. person vede keu kom r keu beshi possessive. amar meye bondhu thaka jemon normal, temni amar wife er chele bondhu thaka tao normal bepar. ekjon manush chot kore tar chiroporichito manush der chere shompurno notun ekta poribeshe ashle tar jonno bepar ta khub ee kothin hoye jay. amar wife oo ekjon manush, i will understand that she has come to a new family in which she has to be among a new bunch of ppl; she has to stay, talk, eat and do everything with them whether she likes it or not, she has got some responibilities towards these ppl whom she came to know just a few days ago. ekta manush ke evhabe tar nijer jogot theke hothat kore ekdom alada kore deya jay na. korle sheta omanobik ekta bepar hobe. ei rokom poribeshe tar jemon husband er support dorkar, temni dorkar bondhuder der support. otherwise she might suffocate...ami jodi caring husband hoye thaki, tahole obosshoi chesta korbo take help korte...i'll make sure she gets all the support she needs from her frndz.........

maximum khetre ekhanei chole ashe possessiveness er bepar ta when her frnd is a guy. onno kono cheler shathe kotha bolte ba ektu hashahashi korte dekhle onek husband'r ee jealousy jege uthte pare. if the the marriage lacks mutual trust this is pretty obvious to happen. abar ei shondeher dosh ta puropuri husband'r upor chapale cholbe na. wife keo tar husband er dik ta bujhte hobe. tar husband take beshi importance dey bolei tar proti etota possessive. manusher jonmogoto boishishter ekta hocche prio jinish ba manushtake karo shathe share na korte chaowa. tai bhul bojhabujhi shuru hobar agei husband & wife'r uchit hobe beparta discuss kore neya..........eki kotha projojjo husband'r meye bondhuder khetreo.

personally, ami amar meye bondhuder chele bondhu theke alada kore dekhina. tobe biyer por jate kono confusion create na hoy shejonno ami obosshoi wife'r shathe openly discuss kore nibo. after all, husband & wife to bondhui. ar amar wife ke jodi ami best frnd na mone kori, then how is the marriage supposed to work ?

emonto hote pare affair marrige kintu ora frnd chilo na.
ekhetre oder common frnds thakbena.
oder alada alada frnds thakbe.
Shobshomoy to joruri na je valobashar manushta age bondhu hobe tarpor premik/premika.
Tokhon ora eke oporer frndsder kivabe nebe?

aey category ta mane ( affair marrige kintu they were not frnds b4) third categoryte fela jai
1. frnd+ love marrige
2. arranged marrige
3. love marrige ( not were frnds b4)

amar mone hoi last categorir coupleder moddhe possisiveness beshi dekha jay. Arrange marrige e jodi ullekkho bepar gulo thake ( orthat dujoner moddhe understanding and dujoni jodi muktomona hoye thaken and familyo jodi liberal hoye thake) tahole amar mone hoi na husband wifer nijossho frndder niye boro rokomer conflict hoi na shadharonoto.

prothom categorite jehetu age frndship tarpor valobashar agomon hoi tokhon as Mrinmoyee said common frnds thakar karone dujon dujonar toward khub ekta impatient hoina.

the third category which creates the most conflict i believe. sicne affair marrige hoi kintu tader personal life e close frnd thake ebong biye poreo tara presented thake oder life. Tokhon muloto typical husband wife theory jegulote based thake meaning shob kotha khule bolte hobe, kono kichu lukano jabena, u ( either husband to wife or wife to husband) comes first in life, egulor shathe ektu dondita eshe jete pare. Amra shobai frnd der shathe amra emon kichu secret share korte pari jegulo amra ar karo shathei korte chaina. hok na she baba ma kingba life partner. Kintu valobeshe biye koreo jokhon bondhuke gopon bepar gulo bola jai ekishathe apni life partner ke bolte parchen na tokhon moner ojantei ek dhoroner oshtirota kaj kore. Arrange marrige e liberal mentalitir coupleder moddhe aey dhoroner issue shohojei avoid kora jai. Karon keo karo past life e involve thakeni bole proshono korte parena othoba uchit na.