Boshonto Family

Narike obomanona sudhu samajik niyom diyei kora hoyni. kora hoyeche vasha diyeo. er kichhu ajo amra savabik vabe nei. kinto amader notun kore vaba uchit! ekti chomotkar article pelam, asha kori apnara pore ektu onno vabe vabben.




WRITER: Umme Habiba Sumi

bujhlam...
eibar kichu prosner jobab deo to dekhi...
tumi nijei jokhon nijeke respect koro na tokhon r prithibir karo theka pore nai tomare respect korar jonno... deny??
no.. cuz thts the truth...
jei shobdo gula niye object kora hoitese.. r jei logic dkehano hocche...
prothom prosno ase, shobdo totter ei jinisgulo jane koyjon??
ditiyoto, jokhon shobdo gulor utpotti.. tokhon sheitai chilo bastobota... ekhon jug patle geche amra notun kichu shobdo o peye gechi ..kintu tai bole amader shob shomoy beboharer shobdo gulo nishchoy ratarati leen hoye jabe na??? shomoy to lagbe naki lagbe na?
tritiyoto, jei karone apotti tola hocche, karon nari ekhon shikkhito hocche anD all...
bhai jei shikkha manus k monushotter shonga bhulay dey, jei shikkhar jonno ekhon shomman,attoshomman shobdo gulo shudhu matro obhidhaner bashinda.. jei shikkhar folafol hocche ekti othorbo, bekar jati.. shei shikkha niye atto anondito howar kisu nai.. shikkha niye jus tumi oshikkhito bekjar theke shikkhito bekar hoitaso.. kintu shei bekar e thakteso.. lubh er lubh ta ki hoilo?
fourth, potita shobdota kharap keno??
shomossha kothay??
potita mane ki?? jara teder body sell kortese right???
jokhon amra amder medha/matha/buddhi beche khai tokhon sheita khub bhalo kaj..
r jokhon manus kayik sromer maddhome jibikata orjon kortese tokhon sheita khub kharap kaj hoye jacche.. eita kemon mentality???
r jokhon ami raater por raat jege kaj kore nijer shorir er 12ta bajacchi tokhon kajta purai medha becha thake na.. jokhon kaj niye doura douri korte hoy edik shedik..tokhon eita purapori buddhi dara orjito jibika thakena..
here i m talking about both male anD female... chasha shobdotar theke potita shobdota k aro beshi kharap dhora hoy..anD eita ekta meyer jonno chorom insult bole mana hoy...

ami jani ami ektu sensitive kotha bole fellam.. hoyto bitorko ta ke misguide o korlam... hoyto bhul othoba faltu kono juktio dilam..ebong stupid er moto kichu kotha bollam, birokto korlam,kintu eitai amar mone hoy...

ekta meye jokhon high heel, figure tight/figure k exclusive kore tule dhora dress pore nijei nijeke ponno kore tule dhorche, tar pokkho niye ei kotha gulo bolte ami naraz..take ami mohilai bolbo, jonabai bolbo, obolai bolbo...
ekhon meyeder shaj r nijeke shundor korar jonno na.. sexy korar jonno..
ekhono meyeder kache medhar theke make up beshi imp...
na.. she free te entertain kortese..tai take potita bola hobe na.. r she to shorashori involved na.. jus chokher jonno entertain kortese... so she is a good girl...
hipocracy er ekta shima thaka uchit na??
anD kotha gulo shunte kharap lagtese ami jani.. kintu olpo kichu betikrom baad dile amar mone hoy na kono chhele ase prithibite j meyeder dike takale shudhui meyetake othoba tar medha ta k dekhbe..aro onek kisui dekhbe...she gula shunte kono meyer bhalo lagar kotha na.. lageo na..kintu tumi nijei jokhon sheibhabe tule dhoro.. tokhon plzz r jai koro jonaba shobdo ta ke object koiro na...

PS. jolchhaya.. tomar kothate logic ase..anD ami obosshoi tomake ba kaukei personal attack kore boltesi na kotha gula..
kintu amar na ei naribadi kotha gula porle ektu na..besh er o ektu  beshi birokto lage...
ekta meyeke mohila/jonaba/obola/potita bole joto ta na insult kora hoy... take ponno kore bebohar korle tar theke beshi  insult kora hoy..kintu meyerai jokhon nijei ponno hote chay, tokhon dictionary er kichu pranhin shobder dosh khuje ki hobe???
ami mani, shobai nijeke ponno kore tole na.. abar jara kore tader shobai j khub jene shune bujhe kore emono na... high heel er utpottir karon khub kom manus e jane...
kintu hal fashon er choto poshak er pechoner karon tobole deyar proyojon nai.. orna ta dorir porjaye niye porar style er karono nishchoi chokhe angul diye dekhate hobe na.. eder dekhle r mone chay na naribad niye torko korte, r bhalo lage na meyeder shomman protisthar jonno bitorke namte, attoshomman bojay jara cholte pare na..tader jonno uthe darate icche kore na...

ami eikhane jonaba beboharer protibad o kortesina.. tumi protibad korteso eitate apottio janacchi na.. shudhu matro pore mone hoilo kotha gula tai bollam...
bishal lecturer jonno dukkhito.. saradin mukh bondho kore kaj kortesi to idaning...tai ektane onek gula kothabole fellam

article ta pore ami jototuk bujhlam je jokhon vashar utpotti hochilo, nari purush er definition toiri kora hochilo tokhon narider nam porlo mohila karon tara chardeyaler moholer vitor bash korto tai amra mohila chilam. Kintu ekhon jokhon amra doctor engineer hochi, char deyaler baire eshe dariyechi tokhon amader definitioner meaning tao change kora uchit. Besh . Khubi shundor kotha. Ebong eta obosshoi kora uchit. Ekhono amra jokhon doctorer kache jai onek shomoy e mohila doctor refer kori. ekjon nari ghorer baire beriye doctor er moto profession join korte pereche ar amra take ekhono (mohila shobdoti janar por) mohila doctor bole shomman dichi eta kemon kotha? Kintu ekhane ekta proshono ache. Ajker juge shobai je ghorer baranda periye ashche ta kintu noi. Ekhono onek nari achen jara ghorer vitorei thakte pochondo koren. Ami amar ammar kothay boli. Ma ekjon house wife. Tini badho non ghorer vitore theke ranna banna korte kintu aey ghore thaka ta tini nijei choose korechen tar jonne. Infact, ma r ghorer baire jeye kono profession join korar konoi intrest nai. To ekhane amar ma ek ebong aro onekei achen ajke bangladesh e unader ki bola uchit?

Ashole kotha hoche emon ekta nam deya jakhane ekjon nari ke duijaygay manabe. She gorer vitore thakuk kinba baire egiye jak. Namta obosshoi shommanjonok hobe. Tai hoito ekjon female doctor ke amra mohila doctor boli. Take amra ekishate ghorer vetorer morjada ebong tar medhar morjada dichi. Ami nishchoy bujhate parchi je ghorer vitorer ar bairer morjada r pechone parthokko ta kothay. Ekjon doctor hoye jaoar mane aey noi je ami revealing dress pore ghure berabo, ami shalinotar vitore thekeo aey profession e thakte pari. Mohila shobdo ta ghorer shei morjada ta tule dhore.
Mohila manei je obola hoye jabe she kichu bolte parbena aey dharona ta bhul. Ekta ghor bolen ar mohol bolen, sheta gore tulte ekjon nari r vumikai je shobcheye beshi sheta kono purusher shadho nei je osshikar korbe. Ebong je nari aey job ta age korte parbena she bairer kono job e korte parbena bole ami mone kori. Shristikorta aey dayitto narikei/mohilakei diyechen ebong sheta shomman jonok. Amra jodi mone kori ghor shongshar kora ektu lojjar bepar ajker 21 centuryte tahole ami bolbo shei bekti nije meye hoye  jonmechen boleo lojja pachen. Ami kintu etao bolchina je mohila manei ghor shongshar korte hobe. Kintu eta korte parar modheo ek dhoroner gun er proyojon. Ekti example dei amar computer e typing joto fast eto ta fast e ami rann korte parina. Fast typing korar capability amar modhe ache kintu ranna korar gun ta nei. Ami purushder cheye beshi morjada tokhoni pabo jokhon ami ranna ebong typing duitai korte parbo.

In short, Amra moholer kaj o korte pari ebong doctor o hote pari tai amader mohila doctor bola hoi. Ebong etate temon kono shomossha o dekhchina.

Article tate shobder kichu discussion mention kora hoyeche jemon, Purush mane ki? -shojib, shotej, shoktishali. Amar mone hoi aeyshob attributes ekjon purusher physical descriptioner karone bola hoyeche. Ar ekhane narike mohila bole oishob physical attributes opposite kintu bola hoi nai. Mohila mane kintu eta bola hoinai tumi physically weak, eta bola hoyeche je ghor take ghuchiye rakhe. kintu ekhane jodi keo mohila mane shudui je ghor guchabe take bole tahole obosshoi object ache. Kar o jodi profession thake take obosshoi duitar morjada dite badho thakbe aey shomaj. Article er last line e bola hoyeche bujhte hobe nari mane mohia noi, Kintu ami bolbo nari mane mohila, nari mane ekjon doctor.

ShwapnoBaZ Wrote:bhai jei shikkha manus k monushotter shonga bhulay dey, jei shikkhar jonno ekhon shomman,attoshomman shobdo gulo shudhu matro obhidhaner bashinda.. jei shikkhar folafol hocche ekti othorbo, bekar jati.. shei shikkha niye atto anondito howar kisu nai.. shikkha niye jus tumi oshikkhito bekjar theke shikkhito bekar hoitaso.. kintu shei bekar e thakteso.. lubh er lubh ta ki hoilo?


ekta meye jokhon high heel, figure tight/figure k exclusive kore tule dhora dress pore nijei nijeke ponno kore tule dhorche, tar pokkho niye ei kotha gulo bolte ami naraz..take ami mohilai bolbo, jonabai bolbo, obolai bolbo...
ekhon meyeder shaj r nijeke shundor korar jonno na.. sexy korar jonno..
ekhono meyeder kache medhar theke make up beshi imp...
na.. she free te entertain kortese..tai take potita bola hobe na.. r she to shorashori involved na.. jus chokher jonno entertain kortese... so she is a good girl...
hipocracy er ekta shima thaka uchit na??
anD kotha gulo shunte kharap lagtese ami jani.. kintu olpo kichu betikrom baad dile amar mone hoy na kono chhele ase prithibite j meyeder dike takale shudhui meyetake othoba tar medha ta k dekhbe..aro onek kisui dekhbe...she gula shunte kono meyer bhalo lagar kotha na.. lageo na..kintu tumi nijei jokhon sheibhabe tule dhoro.. tokhon plzz r jai koro jonaba shobdo ta ke object koiro na...


ekta meyeke mohila/jonaba/obola/potita bole joto ta na insult kora hoy... take ponno kore bebohar korle tar theke beshi  insult kora hoy..kintu meyerai jokhon nijei ponno hote chay, tokhon dictionary er kichu pranhin shobder dosh khuje ki hobe???
ami mani, shobai nijeke ponno kore tole na.. abar jara kore tader shobai j khub jene shune bujhe kore emono na... high heel er utpottir karon khub kom manus e jane...
kintu hal fashon er choto poshak er pechoner karon tobole deyar proyojon nai.. orna ta dorir porjaye niye porar style er karono nishchoi chokhe angul diye dekhate hobe na.. eder dekhle r mone chay na naribad niye torko korte, r bhalo lage na meyeder shomman protisthar jonno bitorke namte, attoshomman bojay jara cholte pare na..tader jonno uthe darate icche kore na...

naheen tui je kotha gulo bolli kotha gulo dukkhojonok holeo khubi bastob kotha. Ok lets discuss it little more. Revealing dress pore opposite gender ke attract kora meyeder jonne narider shalinotar portibad kore ki hobe? Jokhon ekta chele bolbe shob meye ra ek. Shob meye ra chay oder dike chelera takaye takeye dekhuk. Tokhon tui ki bolbi? Jokhon narijatider niye kotha hobe shekhane tui, ami , ar oi srenir ekjon meyeo ashe. Protibad ta kintu oder jonne na, kora uchit tor ar amar jonne. Ekta chele amar mukher upor bole jabe tomra meye ra goaly orna na dori pore ghure berao ar ami chup kore shunbo? Tokhon ki amader uchit na amra kotha ta ektu shudraye dei. Ekta kotha achena Ekta meyer jonne dosh ta meyer bodnam, tui jemon prothomei bolli amra jodi nijerai nijer respect na kori then how can we expect from others?. Protibad na kore ki amra shetai korchi na? Ami oshikar korchi na meyeder aey oshalil ruper kotha kintu " shob" shobdo ta amake, amar ma ke, amar bon ke o tene ane. Tokhon amakei bolte hobe shob na bole bolo kichu. Amake mohila bolle amar kono apotti nai kintu oder ar amar modhe difference na kore   shobaike ek srenir modhe fele mohila bola jabe , then excuse me , I have objection in that . Shomaj ke obosshoi bujhte hobe amake keno mohila bola hoche ar keno or mohila morjada paoar joggo na.

And shikkha niye je kotha gulo ashlo, shekhane ami bolbo. Shikha paoar por kichu korte na parleo ami bolbo anondito houar dorkar ache. The best thing you can ever do to yourself is to educate yourself. Literate hoye amake bekar hoye boshe thakte hobe jodi jani tahole ar shikkha niye ki luv. Tar por o amra shikkhito hochi. Karon eta asholei anonder bepar.

AT SHOPNOBAJ

first..
jolchaya tomar r amar ekta basic difference ami clear kore nei..
tumi naribaad a bisshashi.. i respect tht... tumi j kono kichu te bissash gorte paro anD tomar ekta nijosshota ache, ekta driro ebong juktibadi shotta ache take ami obosshoi sroddha kori.
ulto dike ami , amar bissash bektigoto bhabe, naribaad jinistai naritter ekta boro opoman.er pokkhe obosshoi amar kichu jukti ache ebong amar kichu bisash kaj koreche.
kintu sheta bhinno golpo..tumi chaile obosshoi ami shei golpo tomake shonabo, kintu apatoto amra jokhon juktir khela khelchi... shetai chaliye jai...

1. nirob..tui j parata quote korechis anD lal rong diye logic ta dhorechis..tar shurutei ami bole niyechi ei kotha gulo gonohare shobar jonno projojjo na..shudhu matro tader jonno projojjo jara revealing poshak porche..
shutorang shekhane tui, tor ma pore na...anD shalinota, attoshomman & bektitto bojay rakha poshaker kono nari e poren na.

2. nirob i liked ur logic anD point of view for the term mohila.
jolchhaya... prithibir shob kichur e ekta bekkha thake na.. borong protita manuser kache shotontro ekta kore bekkha thake..
utpotti janar por o kintu nirob er apotti nai mohila shobde..amaro na..karon nirob er jukti take amar beshi jouktik mone hocche..
karon, kono kichu ashole ki mean korche tar ekta bishal ongsho kintu ami sheta ki ahbe nicchi tar upor depend kore...
jemon, personally ami borkha pori, ebong pore khub anonder sahte ghure berai, tar ortho kintu ei na j ami jokhon porechilam jodio shecchay niyechilam..kintu ami khub happy chilam..thus keu amake borkha bole call korle ami khub re act kortam... thn amar mone hoilo wht i m fighting about?? i m borkha now.. so ekhon ami nijei boli oyii j borkhawalita ase na... oyii ta ami...
now i m completely ok, jus bcuz i changed my perception.
lets come back on the point.. utpotti janar por kintu j duita opposite reaction amra paisi tomar anD nirob er kach theke ..
ekta biplobi ... jehetu tumi chao shobdotai r beborito na hok
dui, shonskarponthi, as nirob shudhu matro shobdotar perception palte beboharer pokkhopati.
ami nije udarponthi..this way or the other..amar konotatei shomossha nai. karon shomossha korar moto khub boro kichu amar mone hoitese na eita.. its just a word.
tobe obosshoi jolchhayar "niger/nigro" er logicta bhalo.. kintu apuni, niger er piche jei kalo itihash anD itihasher jei bishal lojjata lukay ache, mohilar pichone kintu ta nai.
karon mohila shobder utpotti jokhon,tokhon mohila howai ekta bishal anD shommaner bepar chilo. ekhon juger sathe amader perception palte jawar por o kintutumi bolte parona, sheta tomar jonno opoman jonok, karon er jonmo tomake opoman korar jonno hoy nai.

3. ami shikkha bolte kintu sho-shikkhar kotha bolini.. pratisthanik shikkhar kotha bolechilam. ami j ei bhabe kotha bolte partesi, dhonnobad.. ami kono pratisthanik shikkha programme er folafol na, amar nijossho juktibad ebong porashona korar tendencyr folafol... dukkhito jodi amar kotha gulo dombhokti othoba ohongkari mone hoy. er pichone amar jukti ta holo.. ami jei protisthan /protisthan gulote porechi, amar sahte aro onekei poreche.. shobai amar moto kore chinta kore na.. amar moto kore bole na.. jodi academic education er resultant hotam, tahole amar moto min aro shokhanek naheen k dekhtam amar ase pase.. kintu dekhi na. she obossho amar dekhar chokher bhul o hote pare.
r academic education niye asholei anondito howar kichu nai.. as long as, sheit amade desher hoitese...karon eta ekta manus k manoshik bhabe pongu korar mohan dayitto chara r kono dayitto nisthar sathe palon kortese bole aamr mone hoy nai.. amader ja poray ta jibone ekta khetrei kaje lage..porikkha pass kore ekta certificate orjoner kaje.. onno kono kaje na. ebong ei ta shudhu school college er shomossha na.. uni te eseo eki jini smaader face kortehoy jokhon amra kono pure sub na niye kono applied subject pori.
na hole, architect der keno pure science er 3 credit er physics porte hobe ja muloto simple harmonic oscillation er variety gula cover kore, tar karon amar jana nai.
u didnt knew, but tht was n insult for me anD i m again sorry for being proud.
r nari mukti?? sheo jodi hoy tobe sho-shikkhar bodoulotei hobe... pratisthanik shikkha na...
pratisthanik shikkhar jatakol tar bhetor theek cheonar ses bindu tuk o shushe nite pare borong...
ami narishikkha birodhita korchi na.. ami pratisthanik shikkhar pasa pasi sho-shikkhar proti utshahito kora rkotha boltesi.. notun ekta dress er theke notun ekta boi er proti beshi bhalobasa toirir kotha bolchi..
juktibad r shatontre bissash r atto morjada protisthar kotah bolchi...
r ta jodi hoy.. off course shikkhai hobe narimuktir shobcheye boro upay...
(jodio..agei bolechi narimuktir amar defination a shomossha ache..still ami general definition er alokei bollam)

4. birongona upadhita chilo birongonader shobcheye boro opoman, bissash koro??
potita shondotar proti amader ei attitude (ebong shikar kori ei pape amio papi) e j ei shobdotar ebong peshatar shobcheye boro shomossha eita bojho?? nari k kono kousholei opoman kora hocche na..opoman kora hocche naritto k... r naribad tader shomman nishchit korar jonno ki korche ami obogoto nai.. amar ignorance er jonno ami lojjito, kintu amar dharona tader jodi karo proyojon hoy, tahole she tader nijeder attobissasher ebong dhoritrir moto shhojjho khomotar r asurer thekeo beshi manoshik shoktir.
amio tomar motoi bissash kori j jodi kauke eikhane opomanito bodh korano dorkar hoy tahole sheita mukhoshdhari bhodro lok gula..
kintu ekjon potitar dike angul tolar age (she tomar shahajjer hater angul hok othoba opomaner) mukhsh gulo khule fela dorkar taan mere. r ami ekhono eirokom kono kormoshuchi dekhini, jate mukhosh gulor dike keu haat bariyeche, amar gyaner sholpotar jonno ami abaro dukkhito.
bottom line... tomake potita bola hole j tumi opomanito bodh koro, etai she meyegulor jonno ekta boro opoman. r ei opoman er daybhar shudhui tomar, ami shar ekorte pari..jokhon amio tomar moto opomanito bodho korbo, e chara noy.
ami bolchina eta khub mohot pesha, ami bolchi na khub shommanjonok ebong amra eke misunderstand korchi (mohila shobdotar moto), kintu baddho hoyei hok r jei bahbei hok.. ei manusgulor prappor shomman tader deya uchit..ekhane tomar sathe amio ekmot.

5. jolchhaya, tomar article tar ekta matro line amar pore mone hoise..na there is some logic..
thts the last line... "bujhte hobe, nari manei mohilanoy, jonaba noy, obola noy."
kar bujhte hobe?? amader... meyeder...
meyera jeidinei jinista bujhbe.. she is jus more thn a bundle of flesh anD skin.. tarpor tumi cheleder bojhanor try korte paro.
other wise..generalize korar j shohojato shobhab..tar shamne amra tikte parbo na.

@ nirob,
tui bolli na j jokhon amader generalize kore fela hoy tokhon atleast amader protibad kora uchit... toke ekkebarei personal ekta example deya jay..
amar sathe jokhon kotha hoy..tokhon amar kono friend othoba amar shamne daray keu ei generalized kotha gulo bolar shomoy amake bole ney, tader ei gono bekkhay ami pori na...
ei khetre obosshoi amar poshaker besh obodan ache.. tobe plzz..kichu credit ami amar bektitto k dite chai, ami she bhabe kokhono karo shamne darai na j amake keu ei bhabe bolte pare..tomra shob meyera... ami bisshash kori, tor bektittoi tor ulto diker manus k ditiobar bhabte baddho korbe she ki boltese...
protibad mukhe kore kul kora jay na...

@ jolchhaya,
apuni, shadinotar shonga shudhu narider na..prithibir shobar kachei amar dharona osposto...
r amar kacheo adhunikota mane nognota na..
kintu, tar ortho ei na j ami amar naritto k bhule jabo... dukkhito.. i m proud to b a girl anD i will b..
abar ekta personal udahoron dei... ami architecture er student...anD architect ra usually ektu proud hoy.. cuz we play god, not in zapak.com/in games..in real life, we play god. sheikhan theke ekta ohonkar ese jay amader moddhe... anD amar moddhe jinista atto beshi porimane ase j ami majhe moddhei boroder kach theke boka khai.. r amar shohopathira amar upor jar por nai birokto...
still ami age ekjon architect noi.. ami age ek jon meye/nari..thn ekjon architect...
dukkhito ami manus hishebe gonno hote raji na...
i m not a boy.. i cant b..neither a boy can b me.. i m unique.. i m different anD i m proud of it.
anD in either way.. i play god..