Boshonto Family

Amar storage department e kichu proshono , kichu dilema , kichu unsolved mystery majhe majhe nara chara diye uthe...and the non-material object of my body which is known as mind/mon restlessly seeks the answer of those questions.
           Hajar proshner jonne hajar thread khula jaina..aey thread take critical thinking and discussion lead to that er jonne rakhi....anything that one wanna ask or clear, would be good to post here.....I know boshonte there r quiet large number of intellectual people surviving....and I would like to enjoy how they give a thought on particular subject.

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Thank you.

Bhalobasha vs. Ghrina

Bhalobashar shomoy to pran khule bhalobeshechi
Ghrina korar belay eto kriponota chole ashe keno???               or,

Ghatok choker buk ujar kora ghrina
kintu bhalobashay eto karponno keno?               konta shotto?
          
                 manusher valobasha ar ghrina korar modhe kontar tendency beshi? In other words, kon ta manush beshi kore? Bhalobashe naki ghrina kore....ar jetai kore konta beshi kore korte pare? I mean valobashar frequency rate koto or ghrinar depth koto hote pare compare to bhalobasha.....on average scale based on homosepien nature.

well...
i m no philosopher or expert to talk about general homosepien nature...
but i can talk about my ones...

anD for me...
the both intensity are the same...
i hate ppl in the same intensity i love some ...
ek shomoy chilo...jokhon choto chilam..tokhon mone hoto kauke hate korbo...IMPOSSIBLE..
but time taught me tht its not only possible...but very very possible indeed...
today i hate certain ppl...anD its such n ugly feeling ot feel...
i really dont want to hate any more...
i dont want to go through tht ugly experience again...
but i ensure you..tht the intensity is the same.

to me... the 1st One goes more...


Nijer dhol nije pitaitesina.. but kauke Ghrina korina ami.. shevabe..
Khub shohoze forgive kore dey... tobe forget korina..
its rather impossble for me to forget..

bhalobasha kaek bole ekhono janina.. tobe bhalo laaga kaj kore.. onek. SHetar pichone nijer kono shartho achhe naki.. kokhono jachai korte ichha hoenai.. bhalobashte ichha hoechhe.. beshechhi..

kotha bolte ichha hoeni.. boli ni... ami compromise korina temon ekta..
khub nirob thaaki... khub gaye makhi na kisu. Ei jonnoi mone hoe.. bhalo thaki. ..oti dushhomoy eo..

but time changes everythin... Iv learnt a few lessons for last 1 year or so.. tobe asha kori... Jaa korbo.. ta r o vebe chinta korbo.. Jake bhalobasha uchit take bhalobashbo.. bhul manush ke bhalobashi kina jani na.. ATleast grhina korbo na. ..

if the feeling is ugly and u don wanna go through again....then how does the intensity remain in the same quantity...acha bhalovasha feelings gulo to bar bar feel korte chas? tahole hateness keno na...tarmane ki eta noi je oitar intensity beshi...or i should say bhalobasha feelings tar effect kom tai feel korte oshubidha nai...ar ghrinar effect beshi tai feel korte kosto lage.

apnar poster flow ta valo laglo...u do have some good principles.  Ok now don get me wrong. Ekhane kichu discussion kotha bolte jachi ar ki...not being offensive to neone.

Apni bollen je apni compromise koren na ejonno valo thaken...ekhane ki ektu selfishness er flavor ashena? (don think tht hardcore selfish, in general r ki)

arekta point jeta valo laglo - kokhono jante chan na keno ekjon ke valo lagche? Keno? karon taki bhoier jonne je? jemon apni ki bhoi pan je jodi shetar pichone kono shartho eshe pore ? Apnar last question tao chomotkar- Jake valobasha uchit take valobashbo? now thats my next question..it is really true? Valobasha process taki judgement base houa uchit? JOdi hoi tahole kintu kichu benefits o ase egular