Boshonto Family

ei ektu aage amar ek bondhur sathe adda marchilam msn a ...
kothay kothay she bollo..she j ekta meyer sateh tui-tui kore kotha bolche etai naki tar kache khub ashhorjo lagche ... he is not used to b friends with girls...anD tht surprised me ...
i mean its okay tht not all guyz r easy with galzzz... but how cum a guy of almost 30 can say tht he hasnt got ant female friend??

from my childhood my ma tried to taught me not to b friend with boyzzz ( as if they were warewolves, they'll bit me anD make me a warewolf too ) ...
but luckily (or bad luckily) ... most of the cantonments abbu was posted, there wasnt much choice for me other tham mingling with boys ...
it was like... in my early age... all of my friends were boys, even in school... i used ot hang out with my fulltime buddies .. i had some girls as my friends too...
infact...all... ... u knw me... i mingle frankly with ppl... so i had a lot friends always...

anD i nvr tried to distinguish between them... i hardly mattered for me...
u knw wht?? one day i was talking with asif over phn.. ma asked who was it after i finish, after i gave her teh name she asked, is asif a girl?? ... well..thts way i m ...

so, its really hard for me to take tht sm1 is saying, they dont have any female friend in their life (sorry dosto)... anD there r lotz of ppl out there who really dont understand me having so many male friends... and bear misconception about me...
anD i really do not understand wht's their prb...

why cant a boy and a girl cant be friends?? anD remain friends???
according to movies... it is love which comes in between them...
but its real life yaar...not movie...
i can give you names of my friends...wheres no affair kinda love.... but friendship anD only frinedship... but i m not giving...
wht i really wanna knw is, apart from love...whts the prb to have a friend of opposite sex anD why do ppl cannot take it easily???

plzzz... help me understand the anwers and i need it.

Quote:why cant a boy and a girl cant be friends?? anD remain friends???

Ei Question ta ami o Onek age theke kore ashchi...

Just.. Cant figure out.. seeing most of the ppl Im getin along with everybody.. hav only One answer : "Etai Niyom.." Bondhu. ekta chhele r ekta meye Jokhon kachhakachi ashe.. tokhon taader chemestry ta frndship theke shuru holeo.. finally.. sheta natural baapar hoye darae.
Hanging out for Hours... together.. makes their bonding in such way tht.. Whenevr the Gal wants the Boy for ne reason... and the boy happens to not be there. She misses Him A LOT more than she might hav missed her other close frnd.. who is A gal.


Ami erokom koto.. dekhsi..... amar ashapasher koto manush er evabe affair hoise..! ..and eshob affair gula e beshir vaag shomoy tike. Cz the Boy & gal happen 2 kno both of their inside-outs far better than they cud hav known in case of Others.

Tobe... chhele tar ba meyetar Jodi affair thake.. tokhon... etar chances onek kom e Jae. They might really... end up remain frndz..! If one of thm remains involved somwhere.. or say..both of thm are involved.

Cz... From wht I see around me.. is tht Most of the hearts Crave for Love. Crave for som1 special. . .. ..ths why... very often they end up getin engaged with their Best of Frndz.. and Thts wht.. they Blieve wud make both of thm Happy.

azkal kar polapain er modhye affair korar tendency ta probol. ths why.. so many good pure frdnships get broken within a moment!!..!

Cz.. the other person cannot take the gal/boy , he/she thought him/her best frnd.. cud end up thinkin somthin diffrnt ab him/her.

Or.. the proposing party cant take him/her gettin refused frm him/her Best frnd . So he/she end up everything with her/him even if the reciever wants to still remain his/her frnd.

Result: We Lose A Very Good frnd .

huh well eita ke boleche je ekta maye aar chele frnd hote pae unless oder matha jodi khrap na thake...i mean cumon frndship means dat u can trust sumone,who is always dere for u and who can help u out in anything ..so it relly doesnt matter if dat person iz guy or gurl..i mean for me..itz totally doesnt matter..and whoever thinkz dat guyz and gurlz cant be frnd just think moreee and groww upppppp....

amar keno jani mone hoy opposite sex er karo sathe dosti ta khub e valo hoy. sometimes kisu prob hoy, those r neglegible. i've some very good frnds (girls). Naheen er sather frndshp ta to onek beshi ghotonabohul. affair hoy frnd der majhe & onek beshi tike o. ami ei bapare Abhie r sathe ekmot. but amader shomaj aj o ekta chele r ekta neyer frndshp shohoje mene nite parena. kobe j parbe!!! amar mone hoy frndshp er majhe chele na meye eita bibechona kora uchit na. frnd is only frnd...

ghash foring Wrote:why cant a boy and a girl cant be friends?? anD remain friends???according to movies... it is love which comes in between them... but its real life yaar...not movie...
i can give you names of my friends...wheres no affair kinda love.... but friendship anD only frinedship... but i m not giving...
wht i really wanna knw is, apart from love...whts the prb to have a friend of opposite sex anD why do ppl cannot take it easily???

plzzz... help me understand the anwers and i need it.

Why cant a boy and a girl can't be friends?! There is no reason why they can't. Most of my good friends happen to be boys and we get along great, better than most girls i've met In fact i feel totally at ease with them. Genders dont matter in friendship.

The ones who can't take it easily..they've got some kinda prob in their headquarters They're still stuck in the stone age.

It is not impossible to have friendship between a girl and a boy. Our society does not permit it because of religious point of views. Beshir vag muslim country gulo tey boys and girls er pre marital relation k prohibit kora hoi because eta kobira gunah in Islam. West a etakey ekdom shavabik money kora hoi.

RonoKlanti er ekta indication kintu important. Jodi dui jon friend er modhdhey ekjon ektu weak hoye porey r ekjoner proti(but not vice versa) then it may really create a problem.

Asif Amader shomaj keno ekta chheley r meyer majhey relation k meney nay na sheta valo moto jana dorkar ,, may be there is a good logic for that. We still are in experienced in several chapters of life , so our decision may not always be right.
I personally believe that friendship between same sex and opposite sex are never the same.

r Gemini cheley r meyer modhdhey friendship ta shohoj vabey keo meney na niley takey stone age a pathano ki thik ? stone age a j cheley r meyer majhey friendship hoto na shetari ba guarantee kothai ??
Amar kono mey friend nai ebong ami personally opposite sex er modhdhey intermingling ta k support kori na bcoz of my religion does not support it. Ghash foring, amar money hoi beshir vag manush jara ei relation ta k pochchondo korey na reason is their religion.