Boshonto Family

well i have some inputs for this topic......i am still confused and outright dazzled.....amar experience life e ai bepare ektai...and i firmly beleive je LOVE can actually come once.....ar baki gula either infatuations or the eagerness to fall in love or the tension of being left alone forces two people to like each other. LOVE can be only once. that my experience guys....
so Tanvir bhai apneke question amar: amar onek friend i ase jara khubi happily engagaged (not literally)...and ekhon dekhe mone hoche je shesh porjonto me and my friends will be attending their weddings...KOOOL....kintu ekta probs ache jaita amake prochondo bhabe disgust kore...and that is tara ekhono meyeder shathe flirt kore.....meyeder dike takai...infact jara bachelor tader thekeo beshi compliment de onno meyeder ke...and aro jinish to achai....amar ekta friend ache je steady go out korche for the last 8 -10 years now......ami nije jani je he still talks in the phone with different gals.....MSN or yahoo theke number niye call kore....ai rokomo forum theke mail ba phone no. niye call kore and so on. These all can\'t be only for friendly concerns (beleive me). When i asked him he told me that a GUY needs the space and most importantly you cant share all with your WIFE to be. Is this true? is this how LOVE is supposed to be? Priyao please answer korben.

and to Priya: dont take it other wise. But i come from English medium background and through my experience i have seen that its more often girls who break up and are in search of BFs more, compared to GUYS. May be the problem lies with the culture of English medium institution but beleive me its true. Why does this happen do you think? Should i presume that its more often gurls who make the mistake of choosing the right person? Have a lot more questions on this subject..cos i am a totally confused DUDE on this matter and wud like to learn more.

Lutful bhai...apner ghumer kotha chinta korle ba khawa dekhle jai feeling hoi nah....oi je pet er bhitor SHURSHURI...ekta LONELY feelings jodi na khete paren...khawa ne dekhle EKAKI feel kora....shara din KHAWA niye shopno dekha....and friends der ke persuade kora je apnar pochondor khawa tai hoche best khawa....ar onno keu jodi bole je NAH onno ekta khawa BHALO..tokhon apnar mar mukhi hoye jawa.....jokhon dekhben je ai same feelings gulai apnar hoche kono ekta particular meyer jonno...tokhoni bujhben je KHAWA chere ekhon apni ekta MEYER preme porechen.
P.s Guys ami khawa ke kono meye ba cheler shathe tullona korchi nah..please onno kono meanings niben nah...ekhon jake jai bhabe bujhate hoi take shai bhabai bujhano dorkar......tai..PLEASE DONT TAKE IT OTHER WISE or DONT BE OFFENDED.

LutfuL Wrote:ok so frm ur point of view:
if I can\'t live a whole day without talking with her
or without meeting with her, O_o (am confused)

tarahura na hoy na-e korlam ... kintu shomoy niye ki dekhbo? ki bujhbo?? pura beparta onek vague hoye jachche na?? .. can u make it clear for me???

LOVE to ekta feelings tai na??? feelings ta kemon?? ghonta baze?

accha, apni prothome amake bolen .. ei meye ke jake apni mone korchen apni take bhalobashen, shey ki jane ei kotha? its better to discuss everything step by step taina?
then take time to decide...

Donmunta Wrote:and to Priya: dont take it other wise. But i come from English medium background and through my experience i have seen that its more often girls who break up and are in search of BFs more, compared to GUYS. May be the problem lies with the culture of English medium institution but beleive me its true. Why does this happen do you think? Should i presume that its more often gurls who make the mistake of choosing the right person? Have a lot more questions on this subject..cos i am a totally confused DUDE on this matter and wud like to learn more.

bhaiya its alrite u come from eng medium background cuz i was also raised up in North America from my childhood days.. so yea i have been livin in the states n in canada for a long time n i m currently living in canada.. lol jai hok.. the point is tht ... i don agree with ur statement. i mean yea i broke up once with a guy doesnt necessarily mean that i was lookin for another guy! n i have been living abroad n belive me, girls r totally diff here. yea everyone might think watever they r sayin im not sayin ur wrong. but i don agree with u about tht.. guys also look for girls i think n so does girls for guys.. it all depends on a person n whom they r hangin out with or know. pple i know have no intention lookin for bf, or gfs or watso ever. everyone makes mistake, but does it mean tht pple shouldnt take the risk to find out wat r they doin wrong? infact i think everyone should have the courage to face all problems.. n it could be love, family. etc etc... coming from eng medium or bangla medium isnt a big deal. yes it might differ in many ways, but it doesnt necessarily mean tht one is better thn other.
plz feel free to ask watever u like

hey THANKS priya for your reply. Your Point is noted and appreciated. though i think you have misunderstood my point. I talked about English Medium becos:
1. I am from this background and so have no idea about the Bangla medium.
2. Know and have heard for a fact that these two mediums are quite diffrent at all means.
3. Know for a fact that the ENG. MED factions are desperately trying to catch up with the WESTERN WAYS. I am not saying that there is ne thing wrong with that, but when i see that in doing so people are not only forgetting our own culture and heritage, and also start mocking it, thats when i get bothered. Sorry topic totally out of the context/ SORRY AGAIN.
4. Have seen, been involved and even managed this institution. thats how i came to this conclusion. Ofcourse every one has the right to his/her own thoughts just as you and me do.
5. My point is that from experience i have seen that nowadays people seem to be more confused about relationships. I see gals and boys in different pairs almost every single month now. Why is this happening? I even rem a few years back when changing pairs were not so common as when matching was made it was made carfully and so they stayed on together.

am confused.

6. Hmm tell me something. say u have broken up for some time now. But you know for sure that that perosn was the one for you for sure. You are absolutely sure. but its been almost a couple of years. Do you go back to her/him and ask for forgiveness and/or reconciliation? and do you forgive/forget if the other person also thinks that it was meant to be? Rem its been atleast 3 years.

i quite agree with donmunta...
from my experience i can say tht...i have a lot of friends for me...but in now a days...when my nieces are passing the same age...they don have any...they straight go in relation and split up in few days...as donmunta says \"in different pairs almost every single month\" ...but what is the time difference...3-4 yrs....
even ...ekhono amra friend ra mile jokhon ber hoi...n amader junior der dekhi ..mone hoi amra koto bhalo asi...
n ya...i m from bangla medium...so r my nieces...
time e mone hoy change hoye gese...obak lage..