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Today i was defeated to my cousin Naheen.When I asked her
to wear heejab she asked me why i do not wear it.I told her
it is not for men it is for women, and a man has to prvent
himself from looking at a girl.Then she told me that \"you
are not doing this so do it first and then give advice\".

I was thundered hearing this logic. In our country we men
always blame young women for the social disasters such as
rape,sexual abuses,we use to say that if women wear heejab
these will never occur.But we never think about ourselve.

In the holly Quran before imposing the rule of heejab Allah
has ordered the men not to look at women.But we do look at
them as long as possible and blame women for that. But for
these kinds of social disasters men are equally responsible.

It is time we should admit our faults leaving the false ego
of manhood.Otherwise a healthy society will only remain
in our dreams.
If 10 man see a rose in the garden, some will admire its beauty, some will try to smell it and some will rip it off and take it with them to put it in their house..and if a goat sees it, it might actually eat the rose..the difference between men are like that some let things be the way they are and some try to take everything pretty for themselves.. and the difference between the men and the goat is that the goat doesnt care about the beauty..it cares about its hunger..its animal instincts prevent it from admiring the beauty...

The rose has the thorns because the thorns would help its chances of survival from the goats..and to some extent from the men who would try to tear it off and take it with them.. but those who just admire it but leaves it intact have no problem in admiring its true qualities even though the thorns are there..

The hijaab probably isnt for the men who would admire the beauty and let it be.. because there is no sin in their admiration.. the hijaab is for those goatlike men who only know their animal instincts.. and its futile to remind them of the laws of Allah or men..because goats are just goats..

Totally personal opinion and analogy.. i cant back it up by any religious documents.. nor can i guarantee that it covers all the aspects.. its only a metaphor that came to mind..
ami ekkhan kotha bolte chai...
tht is...
i agree miftah\'s tht point where he said ... men are equally responsible....
i think the responsibility is equal... both girl\'s and boy\'s...

and amio asif bhai er motoi... nijer chinta theke kotha gula boltesi and all r my personal opinion...

ami bhaiyar xample ta thekei boli... goat ki9ntu golap charao patao khai... so jara goat like ppl tara heejab porleo jahmela korbe...na holeo korbe...
heejab oi manus gulor kach theke protect kore jara golap take chire nie jabe... amar dharona... kauke provoke na korle okarone jhamela korte goat type ppl e jai...

and miftah...tumi Naheen k ekta kotha bolte paro...
tht is.. u r neither ordering or advicing to wear heejab... u r jus reminding her anoter option only...noiw its her choice whether or not to take it.

and personally ami amar heejab porar ghotona ta share korte chai jate tumi tomar cousin k approach korar shomoy ekta indirect help ami korte pari, Smile ...
ami heejab dhorsi college pass korar por uni te join korar age...and kokhonoi.. even ekhono shobai bole amar heejab pora ekta impossible ghotona...but i m happy with this...
ami ekta mahfeel attend kortam, jei khane onek shomoy onek kisu bujhano hoisilo, heejab er pokkhe-bipokkhe... amar upor konotare kono probhab pore nai...ami as usual jeans-fotua/t-shirt pore ghure beratam...
amma ekdin ese bolsilo Naheen tomake scarf porte hobe...
ami obak hoe bollam ken??? (ami tokhon purai tashki... ami eita chinta kortesilam j ami scarf porbo emon ekta weird chinta manus kemne kore???)
amma bollo... u r in the age... ami chai tumi scarf poro and ekhon theke always salwar-kameez poro...
ami tokhon aroi tashki... ami misukkhon takai theke bollam... tiale ami borkha porbo na ken??? if i m of the age...
ma bollo... ami apatoto scarf porte bolsi, apatoto oitai poro... and pore kar na kar sathe bie hobe tomar sathe...she jodi tomake borkha porte na dei... so scarf poro.
i simply replied (i still dont knw wht made me saying tht)... ami jodi heejab kori... thn ami borkhai porbo.. i dont care wht u said... its HIM who decided it for me...tumi majhkhan die kotha bolar k??? and only scarf ekta hipocracy... tola die chul dekha jabe... again ami half sleeve dress porle ki hobe??? ami jodi pori to borkhai porbo... and j chele amake bie koreb she eita jenei amake bie korbe j ami borkha pori... ami tomar kothai shuna na, r koi theke k na k ure ese amake ami ki porbo na porbo oi kotha bolbe r mai shunbo tumi eita chinta koro kemne???

nah...er porer din thekei ami borkha start kori nai... ero 1 yr por theke ami borkha pori...conversation ta amar college 1st year er... and oi 1 year ami scarf porsi... yh... ami khalamonir basai gelam... tar nati tare ekta scarf gift korse...ami dekhe bollam khalamoni eita mai nibo... khalamoni bollen tui jodi ekkhon theke pora start koris thn ami dibo... ami khub simply haat barai bollam den... oi raat theke ami shob shomoy scarf pori ... majher 1 yr a amar college a borkha allowed chilo na bole borkha porte parini...
but the day i leaved my college...i started wearing borkha...
and still now i m continuing it...
and still now amar fav dress jeans-fotua/t-shirt... basai tai pori... r berote hole...simply er upor boskhata pore.. scarf ekta pore ber hoe jai....

my life is a lot simplier now... i can say tht....
and u knw wht...
life a dress r make-up er baireo j chinta korar and gobeshonar r o onek jinis j ase, and oi gula nie ghata ghati korao j eto anonder eita mi ekhon r o onke bhalo bhabe realise kori.
Very well said naheen..and i do agree that men are just as responsible for the incedents as the wolmen, if not more..theres ugly elements in both men and women and theres nothing to deny about it..
khaise.....

ami to bhabsilam amader bitla e miftah er cuzin...lol...

Aashole ke ki korbe ba porbey eta kintu nijekei thik kore nite hobe. same goes for amader namaj pora. w are supposed to be totally devoted to the prayer when in namaz. but beshir bhag shomoy e kisu na kisu chinta mathay ashe. amar motey er chaite na porai bhalo. ami bolchchina namaz na porar kotha. rather ami bolchchi je porte hoile thik motoi pora uchit. same thing goes for all the religion. follow korte chaile ... bujhey tarpor kora uchity. eijonno noy je keu amake bolechche ba chchotokal theke dekhey ashchi.
durdanto misho bhai... darun bolsen
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