sundor thread.. realistic.. motamuti sobar kothai porlam... khub valo laglo eto motamot pore.... q ta silo ami parents der leave korte chai kina... obossoi na.. kintu asol bapar ta onek besi jotil. bohumukhi. eka kao ke ei bapare dayee kora jay bole amar mone hoy na. ekta meye chaitei pare se sosur bari thakbe na - karon ta kintu jouttik ase. ekta meye nijer 20/22 bosor er jibon sere ekta complete notun poribese ese pore. nijer ovvas, nijer achoron - sob ek dine (mind it u have only and only 1 day to tranform!!!!!!) sere diye notun ekta jogote dhuke pore. tar maniye nite kosto hoitei pare... sosur barir uchit take sob rokom support deya. r ei support er khetre husband er o ekta bishal vumika ase. amar dharona ei shob thik moto click kore na bolei family break up hoy.
r shudhu je meye rai songsar vange tao na... onek boro poribar hole r boro chele hole onekei family load nite pare na.. dhire dhire durotto bare.. songsar vange...
vai .. onek karon.. onek tanaporon. shobcheye boro tanaporon taka poysay. manush vai lotano gaser moto... joto obolombon pay tot joraye dhorte chay. keo chai na eka thakte.. eka bachte. kintu onek tanaporon mene niye amra beche asi.. eto sohoje ki ei shob jinis bakkha kora jay na somvob?
Ami oneker onek kotha dekhlam.. and frankly speaking aidhoroner kichu issue te eshe you would have nothing common with the rest..nijer situation onujayi decisions neyai better..
Amar personal opinion.. ami ekannoborti family ekebarei pochondo kori na..i have always preferred having my own space and amar mone hoy shobai ekshonge thakle oi jinish tai shobcheye beshi hariye jaay.. ami bolchi na je kono bhalo kichu thake na.. onek moja hoy no doubt but at the end of the day id like to have my own space over having fun.. and besides.. month er koyekta din puro family ekshonge hoye kichu korle seta kintu daily rituals er cheye onek beshi mojar hoy..
As for parents der theke separate hoye jawa.. i dont think becoming separated is a failure in all cases.. in some cases it is actually the success.. ekta jinish ami nije mone kori and amar mone hoy its true that when you get married you become the head of your own family.. jotoi tumi parents and old family etc niye chechao, you have your own new family after you get married and you have some responsibilities to that family.. tomar baba ma and all that miliye tomar ekta nijer family chilo er aage thats true and they dont disappear after you get married but by obligations of nature your new family should have higher priorities over the old one..
Its true that some families can function great with the new scenerio and accept the fact that their son or daughter has a new life and new priorities and new ways of living.. but a lot dont..and tokhoni problem ta arise kore je how do you solve it.. how do you teach your parents to give you and your spouse the space and freedom that you need..theres no definite solution.. you should always try your best but in my case if i dont see results then i wouldnt keep making my wife miserable just for the sake of making my parents happy.. amar nijer notun life er onek aspects amar and amar wife er uporei chere deya uchit ai jinish ta bojhar moto mental capacity na thakle separation chara aar kono upay nai ai brutal truth ta mene nebar moto shahosh ami rakhi..parents should know where they are helping and where they are becoming a headache..uncalled controlling never helps.. amar khub close school friend kei dekhi totally frustrated hoye jete when his mom keeps advising his wife about what she should wear and where she should go and what she should eat.. for gods sake.. theres a limit to everything..i know the whole fiasco about how parents think that their children are still babies but that doesnt change the facts..so ekta meye je amar upor bhorosha kore shobkichu pichone fele chole asbe taake aituku happiness deya ta amar duty and responsibility..
That is my version of it all.. you may agree or disagree.. as i said..every case is unique and kototuku chesta er por haal chere deya uchit seta ekta million dollar question..amar ekta motto ache ai bepare.. when you need to give up your own life to save your parents and die yourself.. GO FOR IT.. but when its a choice between you being happy in your life and giving them the satisfactions of order obeying..go for YOURSELF..you have responsibilities to yourself too..but ppl keep forgetting that too often..
Shush.. i totally agree with your points..very well said indeed..
WHAT ELSE 1 NEED AFTER SUCH POSTS FRM ASif bhai & Doors..??!
It says it all.... all i had to say... thnx ppl & thnx once again to Bidu 4 such a wonderful thought provoking thread...
At The End Of the day... These are all hard-core Facts... or nothin else... we cant deny tht.... We cant decide our future living in present... We hav to b there to judge tht situation...
.. b4 tht..isnt it hard to confidently make a word on tht?!!?
Abhie Wrote:WHAT ELSE 1 NEED AFTER SUCH POSTS FRM ASif bhai & Doors..??!
It says it all.... all i had to say... thnx ppl & thnx once again to Bidu 4 such a wonderful thought provoking thread...
At The End Of the day... These are all hard-core Facts... or nothin else... we cant deny tht.... We cant decide our future living in present... We hav to b there to judge tht situation...
.. b4 tht..isnt it hard to confidently make a word on tht?!!?
abhie what do u wanna establish???...being seperated is the only way out???
why don\'t u post some of ur thoughts \'bout that?
anyway...i agree with asif bhai and doors...but i can\'t say those are facts...\'coz its not true for all...even they themselves stated thoes as different point of views...
it does differ a lot
i\'m the only son of my parents...i\'ve a sis...what if she gets married?...its already too small, isn\'t it?
i don\'t think one more human being (my life partner) will make it a bigger one or so called \"ekannoborti\"...definitely we are gonna have hell lot of spaces or whatever...my parents are not dumb of course...they do understand what a couple needs...i mean they were \"just married couple\" once...
and thoes \"chotto ghor\", just two persons i don\'t believe in all that...\'coz i\'ve seen some of my friends...they are living togather with their gfs or bfs...its too boring too flat...same stuffs goes on and on...kichu jograjhati...ranna niye gutaguti...ektu study...ekta movie...ar rate gorom nishsas...that\'s all \'bout their lives...and its not gonna change even...no matter who u r gonna get married to...wherever u live...then what\'s the point of being seperated???
and parents...they brought me up...whatever i am...wherever i stand...just because of them...i still remember thoes days of 2000 and 2001...how they supported a stupid, dumb creature like me
that\'s my point of view...that\'s how i feel
...everyone is entitled to lead their life in desired ways
Pritim Wrote:abhie what do u wanna establish???...being seperated is the only way out???
why don\'t u post some of ur thoughts \'bout that?
Pritim, ....I think Iv already said wht I had to say ab all tht... If u wanna kno wht excatly.. support... thn... Id say its too early for me..to decide. ....only time will tell.
U r ri8.... leaving seperated only two ppl... day after day.. isnt tht pleasing or thrilling.... cz nther thing i believe... Marriage is not ab connecting two ppl.. its ab..connectin two families.. which represents the nxt generation....