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Doors thread reminded me my friend one of the dearest passed 3 years back. She was a girl of too much of potentials� too full of life� and was so far successful traveling along the coarse path of life....
it was suicide and 3rd attempt... nobody informed me what was going on...

as I moved to abroad.. we kept in touch...
though she was full of life but not really too outspoken about her feelings...you have to keep on asking to get it out of her...also my long distance calls maybe stopped her discussing too critical situations....
the sad part was (what I came to know later on) she couldn\'t get any friend to confide her situation��..all friends in dhaka were too busy, some I learnt avoided her because of complicacy�..
I called her husband and heard she just came back from hospital to her mother\'s place, after the 2nd attempt (it was 6 months after the first one) and she is getting divorce...
I called her immediately, and had a short chat and tried to give her some hope, was asking to have a break and come over to me...
said will call her soon to talk in detail. ... she didn�t mention the critical situation, killing her; she just said \"call me then late night\"
I bought few phone cards... so can talk to her long time... honestly I knew nothing.... I thought as she is getting divorce, she will be feeling better... never thought for a single day she won\'t give us even a week.
that week I was so busy with stupid things... about some family member\'s operation and also some family problems�.
I delayed 5 days and when I called, 15 hours ago she was gone forever... I just broke into pieces� I cannot forgive myself will never be able to... how stupid I am!
just saw it from outside.. never thought how she might be feeling right at this moment�
what kind of friend I was�.
maybe she waited for my call maybe not.. maybe my call could have made some difference, maybe not...but I wasted the chance........ maybe it was the only chance left.
I loved her so much, I was so grateful to her for so many reasons....
but never could become a real friend in need....... and will never be able to anymore�

As I studied later on�. I wanted to let you all know about the suicidal tendency.
if you know somebody around you is showing some symptoms like this.. please take a drastic action, don�t loose any time......she/he needs help�.. it is a sickness�. maybe proper psychotherapy or a some change (even some intimate and positive time and talk) can help her/him out. As people in our country are so ignorant about this mental state that they push the victims more to that track instead of helping them out�. My friend�s family also was ignorant and couldn�t help her, so was I.

thts right amader kisshu somoy kaw ke khub khub beshi important deya dorkar but oi time gulo te amra stupid work niye bz thaki...
thts bulshit.....

sush thnx 4 such a nice post...
and then...
plz let us knw the symptoms quick....

UNDERSTANDING AND HELPING THE SUICIDAL PERSON

Be Aware of the Warning Signs
Are you or someone you love at risk of suicide? Get the facts and take appropriate action. Get help immediately should you witness, hear, or see anyone exhibiting any one or more of the following:

Someone threatening to hurt or kill him/herself, or talking of wanting to hurt or kill him/herself.

Someone looking for ways to kill him/herself by seeking access to firearms, available pills, or other means.

Someone talking or writing about death, dying or suicide, when these actions are out of the ordinary for the person.

Seek help as soon as possible should you witness, hear, or see someone you know exhibiting any one or more of the following:
- Hopelessness
- Rage, uncontrolled anger, seeking revenge
- Acting reckless or engaging in risky activities, seemingly without thinking
- Feeling trapped - like there\'s no way out
- Increased alcohol or drug use
- Withdrawing from friends, family and society
- Anxiety, agitation, unable to sleep or sleeping all the time
- Dramatic mood changes
- No reason for living; no sense of purpose in life

What To Do
Here are some ways to be helpful to someone who is threatening suicide:

Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
Be non-judgmental. Don�t debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or whether feelings are good or bad. Don�t lecture on the value of life.
Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
Don�t dare him or her to do it.
Don�t act shocked. This will put distance between you.
Don�t be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.
Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.
Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention and suicide prevention.

Be Aware of Feelings
Many people at some time in their lives think about completing suicide. Most decide to live because they eventually come to realize that the crisis is temporary and death is permanent. On other hand, people having a crisis sometimes perceive their dilemma as inescapable and feel an utter loss of control. These are some of the feelings and thoughts they experience:

Can�t stop the pain
Can�t think clearly
Can�t make decisions
Can�t see any way out
Can�t sleep, eat or work
Can�t get out of depression
Can�t make the sadness go away
Can�t see a future without pain
Can�t see themselves as worthwhile
Can�t get someone�s attention
Can�t seem to get control

If you experience these feelings, get help!
If someone you know exhibits these symptoms, offer help!

collected from
http://www.suicidology.org

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also
http://www.theberries.ns.ca/BOTW_archive...myths.html
this is a very good link - easy to understand

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SPECIAL NOTES:

Attempted suicide and parasuicide

Nearly half of suicides are preceded by an attempt at suicide that does not end in death. Those with a history of such attempts are 100 times more likely to eventually end their own lives than those without.
collected from
http://www.answers.com/topic/suicide

Depression is a significant risk factor for suicidal behavior in both sexes. Women, especially those younger than 30 years of age, more often attempt suicide, whereas men more often complete the act of self-destruction. In fact, the male-to-female ratio for completed suicides is greater than 4:1, possibly because women frequently choose less lethal methods. In addition, women often attempt suicide to change the dynamics of interpersonal relationships.
80% of all suicides in the US are men
The male suicide rate at midlife is three times higher; for men over 65, seven times higher
The history of depression makes the risk of suicide seventy-eight times greater
collected from
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/.../women.asp
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/...on/men.asp

thnxxx

awesome post sush

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