amaar mone hoi kobitaaar boi poraata help korte paare ..
seriously .. karon ami dekhsi immatured ra [amaar moto people] kobitar boi dui chokhkhe dekhte paare na..
Another interesting topic..ai thread ta khub ekta follow kori ni atodin..my mistake..
Well amar personal belief hocche theres no definition for maturity.. its just a word used by ppl to define ppl or rather classify ppl according to their own personal judgement scale..
For example..you are walking down a public street.. you see some local mastans beating up a boy..what is the mature thing to do? let me give some scenerios which might be defined as both mature and immature depending on the person whos defining it..
1. You go and call the cops.. Mature because it would avoid you getting involved and risking being beaten up yourself and letting the law take its course.. imamature because you know how corrupt cops are and there are chances that they will harrass the victim more than the offenders if they are powerful ppl..and also cuz they might be too late to arrive..
2. You go ahead and fight the mastans.. mature because you are not running away from your responsibilities to others and trying to save the boy before things go worse.. immature because you have no idea if the kid did something bad enough to get beaten up or not.. maybe he did something awful and the so called mastans are doing the right thing for the first time in their life..
3. You do nothing and keep walking.. Mature because you are not getting involved in something you have very little knowledge about and are not judging anybody..Immature because you are forgetting that as a human being you have a responsibility to the society and walking away is a cowardish act when you can atleast try to stop it..
4. You try to stop it by talking to them and trying to resolve the prob.. Mature because you are avoiding violence and at the same time saving the kid.. immature because the mastans might think you are poking your nose into something thats none of your business and might beat you up along with the kid..
Ato boro lecture e jabar ektai reason.. to give a slight idea of how indefinite the word \"mature\" is.. you can choose any of those 4 activites and still eb defined immature and mature by different ppl.. so why bother defining something like that? Have a deep understanding of your life and your purposes..Live life according to your own rules.. Dont give a damn about who says what about you..do only those things that enable you to have respect for yourself.. thats the best thing to do..there will always be ppl who will call you immature cuz either they didnt have the guts to say or do what you did and dont like you cuz of that..You really cant learn to be \"mature\".. its something that develops into your personality regardless of your desires to cultivate or avoid it..
PS: Id definitely be called immature by most ppl due to my activities but i practice what i preach.. i dont give a damn about others ideas about me.. as long as i respect myself thats all that matters..
hmmm...
jokhon apni bujhben j kono ekta kaj aro tactfully or matured way te kora jeto but u cant do cuz u cant find the way...tokhon ki rokom lagbe??
mane amar ei rokom hoi...ek ta kaj korar agei bujhi j ja kortesi bhul kortesi...kintu kisu ekta tokhon okrtei hobe...do or die marka situation...tokhon khb uneasy lage...
From Asif Hasan\'s interesting illustrations can we not define- maturity is making the right decision considering the circumstances. Now again the question might arise what is right decision? – Decision that bring positive outcome or resolve situation?
Lets take that scenario a bit further. What action would you take if that boy were just nobody? What would you do if the beaten boy were your brother? What’s the influencing factor here making the decision?
Interesting discussion..
very interesting ..
but the problem is here is the scenario itself
my idea is this type of crisis - i feel violence might not be a place to judge maturity... you might be able to judge your conscious/concerns ...but maybe not maturity..... i think in this sort of situation you cannot even judge conscious/concerns
the circumstances can be different and you will react differently....
if it was here i would have simply dial 911
but for there if it was at night and nobody else around and no cell phone with me i would have flee with bitter feelings of my weaknesses
but if there were people around, i might try to get some quick help... maybe i would have left the seen if I was in hurry leaving this matter on other passer by ... who knows, we like to see ourselves in many responsible matters but till you get there you cannot say what you will do....
but i don\'t care the boy is guilty or not, the matter is the beating cannot be accepted in any circumstances...
but this is really interesting to think about... thanks Asif
...it is!
nice2 know such Joss JOss illustrations... frm ppl lik u..
doors er \"decision making\" pointa bhalagse... tht really tests a Man\'s persona...