Amra onek shomoy i emon situation e pori, jokhon amader onek priyo keu khub raag/obhimaan kore acche amader upor aar amader tar raag/obhimaan bhangate hoy. And many a times just saying \'sorry\' doesn\'t really work. So what should we do then?
Some may think discussing on the issue would help them to solve the problem. Where as some other may find discussing on a serious note while they are fuming quite risky, so for them this idea wouldn\'t work. And as we differ from person to person in our views to analyze/evaluating situation, so it becomes more difficult at times to solve this apparently pretty simple problem of our life.
I\'m kinda curious...may I find some useful tips on this? Please also give your suggestion on how you calm yourself down when you are angry.
Amar upor keu generally raag korena.. ba raag kore thakte parenaa.. beshikhyon!
maximum shomoyii jokhon karo shathe jhogra hoie..kotha bondho hoise..tokhon shob cheye beshi embarrased mone hoe amii hoi. Guilty feelings hoe khub!
Raag vanganor cheshta korte parinaa... karon khub hotash lage...
amar kase special kono idea ney.... I\'m a man of very little knowledge , I don xperience much.... so dint hav to bring nethin up lik tht....
But.... khub raag lagle jotota pari eka eka hoye jai...
chup kore boshe thaki... bichhanae shoja hoye shuye vabi....
ami ki kono dosh korechhi....??
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well...amar obosthao abhie er moto...amar maa chara amar upor beshikkhon rag kore thaka j karo jonnoi ektu tough...
and amar upor keu rag korle ami khub serious serious chehara nie boli...
\"sorry, dosh ta to amarii...
ami promise kortesi na j emon r hobe na, but ill try.\"
frn der jonno etai jothesto...abba-ammar jonno aro kisu karikechar korte hoi...
mane tader manate komse kom amake tin din goody goody girl hoe thakte hoi...no dustami, bandrami, lafalafi...
r...or sathe amar ekta diff mutual ase...amra rag kore kotha bondho kori na... mane amar prb ta holo ami jodi konodin karo sathe kotha bondho korte pari thn relation oikhanei ses dhore nite hobe...she jei hok...and ami kaj ta mota muti pari na...
and mejaj jotoi kharap hok ami ghotonata diff perspective theke dekhar chesta kori.
r...well ...amar khub rege gele jokhon keu boka dei (abbu-ammu bad die) ...ami chup kore shuni...thn khubbbb cute kore boli \"boko keno\" ... well it works a lot
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basss....prb solvd...
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xactly amar mone hoi ekhane kono nirdissto upai nai...but nijer dosh mene nile and ego jinis ta bad dite parle mone hoi prb solv kora shohoj hobe.
ami recently ai rokom akta ghotonar samna samni hoisi.....
rag vanganor sattikare kono upae ase kina ami jani na...
asole beparta holo apnar take bujaite hoeb je u r truly sorry...
ami tai korsi...ami chesta korsi bujaite je ami asoelo sorry
ami sorry take dukkho deoar jonno...ami akta kaj korsilam....ami tar dik theke bepar ta dekhar chesta korsi...bolar chesta korsi je o ki bote chacche ami bujtesi..abong or sathe akmot na holeo oke hurt korar kono ichai amar silo na
kotha bolte hobei..kotha na bole kakhono kono problem solve kora jae na...tobe akjon jakhan rege ase arekjon ke aktu norom hote hobe..kisu ta sacrifice akjon kei korte hobe..jehetu arekjon oi muhurte oi mood e nai..normally hoito jeta unii korto...
kajei apnakei ai khetre kisu ta char dite hobe...
sab thik hoe gele dekben apnii char pacchen beshi..and ull come as a winner ......future lav er jonno investment ar ki...
ami emnite aktu hottempered lok..kintu mai jakahn ragi sathe sathe ami kisui kori na...age ami rag ta komte dei..jate seita amake khub beshi effect na kore ..tatokkhon ami oi beparta nie kono ghtaghati kori na..never....tarpor ami thanda matahe chinta kori kar dos..abong dos jodi tar hoe tahole kivabe problem ta solve kora jae..
amar kase relation bojaye raka ta age...ami dorkar hole ai muhurtei nijeke proman korar cheye sothik samayer jonno wait korbo ...karon manush ta age....nahole ki lav nijeke tar samne proman kore jodi se amake niye feel e na kore...
Abhie: Khub rege gele amar o ekta tendency acche eka eka hoe jaoar, better bolte paro chupchap hoe jaoar. Ami joto kom kotha boli shey shomoy gulate bujhte hobe amar raag er intensity toto beshi.
Naheen: Ego ke shamne na ashte deya ki eto shohoj? Beshir bhag shomoy hoyto para jay, kintu shob shomoy ki shombhob hoy? BTW, Egoism er intensity kintu ek ek joner bhitore ek ek rokom thake.
Nisargo: Dhoro jodi emon hoy je ek jon prothome ekta bhul korecche aar tate onno jon rege gelo, prothom jon khanikkhon sorry-torry bollo; kintu kono luv holo na. Ebar dhire dhire prothom jon o khepe gelo ditio jon apology accept na koray. Edike shomoy joto gorate laglo, toto ditio jon shondhi korar manoshikotay ashte laglo. Kintu jehetu er moddhei prothom jon o notun kore khipto, tai shondi korar situation aar toiri hocche na. Ekhon obostha ta emon daralo je dui jon i bhitore bhitore hoyto bhishon khepa, abar dui jon i sorry o feel korcche aar patch up korte agrohi. Abar dui jon er i ego tao ektu beshi. Ekhon tumi jodi er moddhe jekono ek jon hou, tokhon tumi ki korbe?
ami hole.... sheta Allahr upor chherre ditam... suitable time er opekhyae thaktam... kono na kono ocasion khujei nitam.. ba third person er help nitam....
amar khtre ei baparta 2bar hoechhe.... 2barii evabei mite gese...
same process !